Falling on Hard Times
“I have come to believe that hard times are not just meaningless suffering and that something good might turn up at any moment. That’s a big change for someone who used to come to in the morning feeling sentenced to another day of life. When I wake up today, there are lots of possibilities. I can hardly wait to see what’s going to happen next.”
― Alcoholics Anonymous
For the many sober Alcoholics in long term recovery this passage carries a truth that would have seemed to be impossible. The active alcoholic is like a tornado of hurt, pain and misery…not only for himself but for those who love and care about them as well. But we have found that in a recovered state of mind “we do not regret the past nor do we wish to shut the door on it.” At first glance this seems to make little sense, but for those who have experienced this gift of recovery, we accept today that it was only in the face of those tragedies that we had the power to seek change.
For many alcoholics and addicts the suffering begins long before the first drink or drug. We now know that the drinking and drugging is but an underlying symptom of a much deeper personal struggle…it is this underlying condition that drives an alcohol or addict to self medicate with substances. For most it will manifest as anxiety or depression, or some combination of both. Even those who are not alcoholic or addicted to drugs can relate to, at times in their life, doing destructive behaviors that they may feel they don’t necessarily want to do, such as over eating, gambling or acting out sexually. The purpose of Alcoholics Anonymous and the twelve step model of recovery is to heal this underlying “restless, irritable and dis-contentedness,” and that in doing so the need to drink and drug will be removed.
At Shoreline Sober Living San Diego our residents wake up each morning with purpose. Our sober living house mates begin each day by conducting a short morning meditation followed by an early morning 12 step meeting. After the morning 12 step meeting each of our residents either heads off to work for the day, attends an Intensive Outpatient Program or goes to school. Monday’s, Tuesday and Thursdays each of our recovery home residents reconvenes for an evening book study or in house meeting.
Sober Living is not a requirement to achieve long term sobriety, but it can greatly aid in the likelihood of ones success. For those who are willing to do the work and accept our way of life, there is a very successful plan for recovery from this deadly disease. We hope that if you our a loved one is seeking an answer to his addiction that you will allow us the opportunity to introduce you to “a design for living” that really works.